Two, everything is simple… until the moment when a stray sock triggers a diplomatic negotiation. If you’re looking for a light but ruthlessly effective way to talk about your habits, your boundaries and your humor, the game « C’est un 10 mais » is your best ally. Here I offer 169 ideas categorized by themes, designed to test your compatibility, spot the red flags (and these famous beige flags) and above all nourish communication without dragging down the mood.
How to play « C’est un 10 mais » as a couple (simple, funny and safe)
The principle is straightforward: we present a scenario like « c’est un 10, mais… » and the other person gives a score from 0 to 10 according to their tolerance threshold. What really matters is the “why”. Your goal is not to be right; it’s to understand each other. Set clear boundaries (off-limits topics, play time, work passwords, etc.), keep the humor tone, but dare to say what you feel.
I recommend rounds of 20 to 40 minutes: one turn each, the score, then a mini explanation. If a topic stings a bit, we breathe, rephrase, and move on. The goal isn’t to settle scores; it’s to identify where your future compromises lie.
Golden rule: we laugh first, we clarify next. And if it touches a sensitive point, we switch to a neutral card, then come back later with kindness and active listening.
| Theme | What it mainly reveals | Number of ideas (in this guide) |
|---|---|---|
| Everyday life & small quirks | daily routines, mental load, tolerances | 52 |
| Future & big plans | life vision, finances, children, ambitions | 33 |
| Networks & social life | social networks, privacy, jealousy | 34 |
| Character & little secrets | temperament, love language, values | 50 |
Daily life as a couple living together : 20 dilemmas to test your quirks
Daily life is the naked truth of the couple. You don’t have to like the same things, but you should know how far you’re willing to adapt. Here’s a pack of ultra-concrete situations to see what sticks… or what melts.
- It’s a 10 but refuses to close the window at night, even when it’s freezing.
- It’s a 10 but has morning coffee breath… from morning to night.
- It’s a 4 but serves you a brunch in bed every Sunday.
- It’s a 10 but slides its icy feet against you under the covers.
- It’s a 7 but folds your clothes exactly how you like.
- It’s a 10 but leaves empty mugs all over the apartment.
- It’s a 9 but snores like a chainsaw as soon as it falls asleep.
- It’s a 2 but has an indecent bank account and dreams of exile in Polynesia.
- It’s a 10 but confiscates the remote to choose all the movies.
- It’s a 5 but massages your feet every evening in front of the TV.
- It’s a 10 but turns the bathroom into a pool after every shower.
- It’s an 8 but remembers your order by heart.
- It’s a 10 but wants to do everything as a duo, even Monday errands.
- It’s a 6 but leaves you the last slice of pizza without negotiating.
- It’s a 10 but holds serious conversations with its cat.
- It’s a 3 but consistently messes up the pasta.
- It’s a 7 but always defends you with your family, even when you go too far.
- It’s a 10 but wants matching pajamas all year round.
- It’s a 10 but forgets to buy toilet paper all the time.
- It’s a 10 but insists that the dog sleeps in the middle of the bed.
When a card makes you cringe, it’s good news: you’ve identified a boundary to clarify. Ask yourself: “What exactly bothers me? The gesture, the frequency, or the symbol?” That’s where good adjustments arise.
Future and big choices : do your visions really align?
Here, we’re talking life direction. If your desires diverge, it isn’t disqualifying: the important thing is to know how to negotiate the tempo and the priorities. Example cards: “It’s a 10 but wants to settle in the countryside with twelve goats”; “It’s a 10 but doesn’t want children, ever”; “It’s an 8 but dreams of a wedding in a month”; “It’s a 10 but requires a joint account from the first month”; “It’s a 9 but wants to retire at 40 and live in autarky”; “It’s a 6 but wants to build the house with their own hands”; “It’s a 10 but wishes to spend every Christmas with their family”; “It’s a 10 but refuses to commit beyond six months”; “It’s a 10 but suggests adopting an animal… not really domesticated.”
These questions reveal your life vision, your relationship to compromise and to stability. Play them when you’re available, without background noise, and take notes on what is non-negotiable for each.
Réseaux, sphère sociale et frontières à poser
The digital world is the third guest in your relationship. This pack helps to set healthy boundaries: “It’s a 10 but likes photos of exes” ; “It’s an 8 but wants your passwords for ‘trust’” ; “It’s a 10 but never posts a photo of the two of you” ; “It’s a 4 but always drags you down with your best profile” ; “It’s a 10 but posts your disputes in stories to ‘get opinions’” ; “It’s a 9 but replies to your messages late… while staying glued to their phone” ; “It’s a 10 but wants to do couple TikToks” ; “It’s an 8 but has no social networks and lives offline” ; “It’s a 10 but watches who follows you” ; “It’s a 5 but puts their phone away when you’re together.”
Discuss what’s private, public and intimate: handling comments, photos from family events, the transparency you want. This isn’t about control; it’s about emotional safety and respect.
Character, little secrets and emotional compatibility
You’ll laugh… and sometimes recognize yourself. A few cards to take the temperature: “It’s a 10 but pouts if you don’t give him a reason”; “It’s an 8 but cries at too-cute commercials”; “It’s a 10 but can’t keep a secret for more than two minutes”; “It’s a 9 but has an irrational fear of butterflies”; “It’s a 4 but stays Olympian calm when you stress”; “It’s a 10 but wants a minute-by-minute account of your day”; “It’s a 6 but has an amazing style”; “It’s a 10 but can’t decide on a restaurant”; “It’s a 7 but has a voice that soothes you instantly.”
Want to push the slider? “It’s a 10 but is hooked on video games and plays at night”; “It’s a 10 but wants you to choose their clothes”; “It’s a 10 but cries at cartoons”; “It’s a 10 but judges everything by astrology”; “It’s a 10 but hates surprises”; “It’s a 10 but never lends their things”; “It’s a 10 but wants afternoon naps together every day”; “It’s a 10 but wants everything written in black and white.”
This section touches your love language (gestures, words, timing). If a card reveals a mismatch, look for the underlying need: validation, autonomy, order, play, touch… When you name the need, the solution becomes obvious.
Turn the game into a real, useful discussion
Your best ally: the communication without pokes. A simple method: 1) “I note X/10 because…” 2) “What works for me/what bothers me is…” 3) “The small adjustment that would suit me: …”. This structure defuses criticism and opens the door to adjustment, not to a trial.
Also keep a “couple notebook”: list your cards that spark debate, those that make you laugh, and the compromises found. Once a month, redraw 10 cards at random and see if your answer has evolved. It’s a simple relationship thermometer, based on shared humor and curiosity.
Need even more ready-to-play ideas?
If you love the format and want to vary the pleasures, explore our XXL bank with evening-tested scenarios: see our guide on 360 questions “It’s a 10 but” ready to play. And to switch up the mechanic while staying in cahoots, dip into our selection “Would You Rather” for couples.
Kick off the game tonight: 20 minutes, three packs, a real spark
Choose a theme that makes you smile, set a safety rule (“you can skip a card without justification”), and draw 10 to 15 cards. Let the score open the discussion, not close it. After 20 minutes, you’ll have laughed, learned something about the other and laid another brick to your relationship. That’s exactly what this game promises: useful information, without heaviness, to live better together.