Let's not beat around the bush: if you want "It's a 10 but" questions that really make you sweat, you're in the right place. No more mismatched socks. Here, we go for the unapologetic red flags, the faults that drop a score from 10 to 0, and the moral dilemmas that split a group in two. Objective: spark memorable debates, without crossing your non-negotiable limits.
Before we start, an essential reminder: this game is fun when it stays imaginary. We aim for archetypes, not real people. Respect consent, calibrate the provocation to the audience, and keep kindness as your compass. Ready? Here are 124 hard questions ready to blow the table apart… with laughter and unease.
Golden rule: we debate vigorously, we don't belittle anyone. Stay focused on the ideas, never on people.
It’s a 10 but : hygiene and habits that make you wrinkle your nose
Looking for "buts" that hit the mark? The body, the odor, the little quirks that turn your stomach. Perfect to test your daily tolerance and distinguish a real deal-breaker from a mere eccentricity.
1) It’s a 10 but he/she doesn’t shower on weekends.
2) It’s a 10 but changes the sheets twice a year.
3) It’s a 10 but wears the same socks three days in a row.
4) It’s a 10 but eats with the fingers and then touches your face.
5) It’s a 10 but picks their nose at the table, shamelessly.
6) It’s a 10 but stacks the dishes until they mold.
7) It’s a 10 but has blasting morning breath first thing in the morning.
8) It’s a 10 but licks their plate at the restaurant.
9) It’s a 10 but spits on the ground when they walk.
10) It’s a 10 but doesn’t wash after sport.
11) It’s a 10 but has black nails constantly.
12) It’s a 10 but cuts their nails at the salon, everywhere.
13) It’s a 10 but wears perfume to mask dirt.
14) It’s a 10 but shares their toothbrush without warning.
15) It’s a 10 but keeps a “lucky charm” pajama for a month.
16) It’s a 10 but leaves hair everywhere in the bathroom.
17) It’s a 10 but bites their cuticles in public, nervously.
18) It’s a 10 but drinks straight from the bottle and hands you the bottle.
19) It’s a 10 but forgets the flush “on principle”.
20) It’s a 10 but only brushes their teeth for important dates.
21) It’s a 10 but keeps used tissues all over.
22) It’s a 10 but walks barefoot outside and then at your place.
23) It’s a 10 but eats loudly with every bite.
24) It’s a 10 but keeps expired leftovers “just in case”.
25) It’s a 10 but wears the same T-shirt for a week.
26) It’s a 10 but leaves a wet towel on your pillow.
27) It’s a 10 but never washes their water bottle.
28) It’s a 10 but keeps their shower gel empty “for decor”.
29) It’s a 10 but puts their feet on the table where you eat.
30) It’s a 10 but sniffs loudly instead of using a tissue.
31) It’s a 10 but puts dirty clothes back in the wardrobe.
32) It’s a 10 but leaves shoes in the bed “out of laziness”.
33) It’s a 10 but thinks that soap dries the skin “too much”.
34) It’s a 10 but shaves their body hair above the sink and doesn’t rinse.
It’s a 10 but : toxic behaviors and real red flags
Here, we talk about control, manipulation, pathological jealousy. Signals we’d rather spot early. Do some qualities make you forget these flaws? You’ll find out right away.
35) It’s a 10 but reads your messages without asking.
36) It’s a 10 but wants your passwords “for transparency.”
37) It’s a 10 but makes you feel guilty when you go out without him/her.
38) It’s a 10 but flirts with your friends “to test you.”
39) It’s a 10 but comments on your body constantly.
40) It’s a 10 but counts every euro, even for a coffee.
41) It’s a 10 but compares you to his ex at every argument.
42) It’s a 10 but ghosts you for 48 hours to punish you.
43) It’s a 10 but laughs at your insecurities in public.
44) It’s a 10 but gets angry at servers for nothing.
45) It’s a 10 but tells your secrets as anecdotes.
46) It’s a 10 but decides for you “because you hesitate.”
47) It’s a 10 but forbids you from wearing certain outfits.
48) It’s a 10 but secretly films you “for memory.”
49) It’s a 10 but follows your location in real time.
50) It’s a 10 but makes you doubt your reality (gaslighting).
51) It’s a 10 but cuts you off repeatedly.
52) It’s a 10 but monitors your subscriptions and likes.
53) It’s a 10 but criticizes your parents and friends.
54) It’s a 10 but makes promises never kept.
55) It’s a 10 but lies about trivial details.
56) It’s a 10 but goes through your things when you’re not there.
57) It’s a 10 but “flirts for sport” on apps.
58) It’s a 10 but plays the victim after hurting you.
59) It’s a 10 but systematically minimizes your successes.
60) It’s a 10 but demands you reimburse everything, even 2€.
61) It’s a 10 but humiliates you in public under the guise of humor.
62) It’s a 10 but posts your disputes in a story.
63) It’s a 10 but compares you to his/her famous crushes.
64) It’s a 10 but dips into your wallet without asking.
65) It’s a 10 but never apologizes, as a matter of principle.
66) It’s a 10 but imposes radio silence for days.
67) It’s a 10 but refuses that you have friends of the opposite sex.
68) It’s a 10 but threatens to leave at every disagreement.
69) It’s a 10 but times you to respond to messages.
70) It’s a 10 but wakes you at night to talk about their anxieties.
71) It’s a 10 but wants to validate every one of your decisions.
72) It’s a 10 but mocks your childish passions.
73) It’s a 10 but sabotages your projects as they progress.
74) It’s a 10 but makes you choose between him/her and your family.
75) It’s a 10 but criticizes your outfit before every outing.
76) It’s a 10 but constantly corrects your language.
77) It’s a 10 but shows up at your place unannounced.
78) It’s a 10 but posts your photos without your consent.
79) It’s a 10 but reads your diary/your private notes.
80) It’s a 10 but wants you to change careers “for us”.
It’s a 10 but : impossible dilemmas and extreme life choices
Minefield: money, power, beliefs, the future. There, your system of personal values is laid bare. What would you forgive… and how far?
81) It’s a 10 but wants to live off the grid, without internet.
82) It’s a 10 but thinks science lies about vaccines.
83) It’s a 10 but can’t stand being around children.
84) It’s a 10 but wants to move tomorrow to an isolated country.
85) It’s a 10 but demands a tattoo of their name to “prove.”
86) It’s a 10 but wants to merge your accounts by week 2.
87) It’s a 10 but hides defensive objects everywhere “in case.”
88) It’s a 10 but collects info about you “to protect you.”
89) It’s a 10 but has no empathy in the face of suffering.
90) It’s a 10 but wants you to cut ties with your family.
91) It’s a 10 but changes their mind every week about your future.
92) It’s a 10 but wants a one-sided relationship contract.
93) It’s a 10 but sabotages your career out of jealousy.
94) It’s a 10 but is addicted to gambling and piles up debts.
95) It’s a 10 but spends with your card without limits.
96) It’s a 10 but demands access to all your conversations.
97) It’s a 10 but only laughs at mean jokes.
98) It’s a 10 but wants you to quit your job to follow them.
99) It’s a 10 but doesn’t like animals and blocks any adoption.
100) It’s a 10 but wants to join a very strict and isolated community.
101) It’s a 10 but refuses any therapy despite recurring problems.
102) It’s a 10 but keeps testing you to prove your loyalty.
103) It’s a 10 but thinks they’re superior to everyone.
104) It’s a 10 but wants you to pay absolutely everything.
105) It’s a 10 but films your disputes to “analyze” them.
106) It’s a 10 but wants to publish everything about your life on social networks.
107) It’s a 10 but wants to decide alone/ her when to have a child.
108) It’s a 10 but wants to plan a departure for Mars someday.
109) It’s a 10 but envisions the end of the world and a shared bunker.
110) It’s a 10 but refuses responsibility when they’re wrong.
111) It’s a 10 but wants to decide who you see or not.
112) It’s a 10 but demands your fingerprint to unlock their phone.
113) It’s a 10 but creates jealousy scenes “to strengthen you.”
114) It’s a 10 but requires a confidentiality agreement between you.
115) It’s a 10 but alternates hot/cold without explanation.
116) It’s a 10 but doesn’t tolerate you succeeding more.
117) It’s a 10 but refuses commitment after five years.
118) It’s a 10 but wants you to give up your passions.
119) It’s a 10 but requires a detailed account of your day.
120) It’s a 10 but wants to control how you dress.
121) It’s a 10 but thinks that “love excuses everything.”
122) It’s a 10 but associates love only with money and gifts.
123) It’s a 10 but wants cameras at your place “to feel reassured.”
124) It’s a 10 but thinks cheating isn’t serious if “it’s physical.”
How to play in hard mode without breaking the vibe
A good framework makes all the difference. Here’s my pro method to keep the game intense and healthy — and to make everyone want to play again tomorrow.
- State the frame: sensitive topics allowed or not, and a common stop word.
- Instant score from 0 to 10, each justifies their score in 20 seconds max.
- Targeted follow-up: “What would raise the score by 1 point?”
- Fast rotation: 5 to 7 cards per person, no more, to keep the pace.
- Respect: critique the idea, never anyone around the table.
Want to alternate hard and fun to accommodate the group? Check our XXL guide of 360 questions “C’est un 10 mais” to mix the themes and keep the whole evening. And if you want a energy shift, switch to the dare mode with Action or Truth (100 questions and challenges).
Last editor’s tip: always ask the question behind the question. Why does your score drop? Is it the smell, the control, the impact on your autonomy? It’s this decryption that creates the real added value of the game and turns a joke into a memorable discussion.
The closing word
You now have an arsenal of 124 “It’s a 10 but” that are really spicy, sorted to provoke, make people think, and bring a group together. Remember: the game is a pretext. What matters is what each person reveals about their priorities, their thresholds of tolerance, and their idea of respect. If things heat up, breathe, reset the frame, and bounce to a lighter card. The best part is the one people will still be talking about the next day.